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The Resentment Dumpers

Dump your Resentment, not your Relationship!

The Post-Honeymoon Survival Guide

Aaron Paul

Aaron Paul of Breaking Bad

Okay I’m a little obsessed.  Bear with me on the Breaking Bad themes while the last episodes of the series are in full-swing.   I’m reading everything I can find in the press on the actors and characters, and the other day I came across an article on Aaron Paul, the very talented actor who plays Jesse Pinkman.  Aaron got married last spring and has been very vocal about the love and adoration he has for his new bride, Lauren Parsekian.  In an interview with People magazine, Aaron was asked if he and Lauren were still in the “honeymoon phase” of marriage, to which he replied:  “Let me tell you, my friend, I will be in the honeymoon phase until I leave this planet’.”

My initial reaction to that was “Um good luck with that Aaron!”.  I had that reaction because I happen to KNOW that it takes a whole lot more than love, infatuation, and desire for the “honeymoon phase” of a relationship to last a lifetime.  I happen to know that it takes something very specific, and that is the ability to keep the relationship resentment-free.

When the honeymoon’s over, which couples survive and why?

The deep love we feel early in a relationship can be the motivation and the catalyst to keep things fresh and clean, but it takes a lot more than motivation to actually make it happen.  It takes real know-how and the willingness to NOT sweep things under the rug;  but rather face them, and resolve them.  Head on.

We all know that the early stages of a relationship are known as the “honeymoon period” for a reason.  This is when we’re still infatuated, still a little starry-eyed and gaga over one another.  During the honeymoon phase, the qualities we’ve hoped for in a partner gleam like polished silver and the things we don’t like fade away into the sunset.

Suddenly, one day we realize that the polished silver is looking a bit tarnished.  And those things that used to fade into the sunset, are starting to appear with surprising regularity.  That is the time when resentment starts to creep into the picture and in our traditional relationship mindset, we push them aside.  Pretend they aren’t there.  Hope they’ll go away.  Sweet them under the rug,

But the dirt is still there and we feel it.  The once starry-eyed adoration turns to contempt. The resentment builds up and creates a barrier, like papers between magnet and steel.  This dulls the attraction and what was once an intense draw to each other becomes the polar opposite: REPELLENCE.  The only way to get rid of the paper build-up is by “cleaning” the relationship and then maintaining it.  The Melfox Method shows us how!!

A resentment-free relationship is the ONLY way to keep that honeymoon phase alive “until you leave the planet”!

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