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Information

Screen shot 2013-02-24 at 4.07.13 PMPart Two of The Melfox Method is Information, where we will learn that Information is data shared with your partner that…

  1. Is specific and organized for a purpose,
  2. Has been verified to be accurate and timely,
  3. Is presented within a context that gives it meaning and relevance, and
  4. Can lead to an increase in understanding and decrease in uncertainty.

Trigger words and phrases (i.e. profanity) can invoke a negative reaction from our partner.  Positive words and phrases have the ability to keep the conversation “on course” and even reverse the affects of negative words and a defensive partner.

The different types of sentences by purpose, and their typical role in Interaction are discussed:

We discuss that Information is shared through:

  1. Requesting clarification of what was said (inquisitive)
  2. Asking curious “why” questions (inquisitive)
  3. Sharing specific relevant irrefutable statements (declarative or conditional)

The different types of nonverbal language and their impact during Interaction are discussed:

  1. Paralanguage (the way that you say your words)
  2. Body Language (your body positions, gestures, and expressions)
  3. Engagement (your eye contact and movement)

We then talk about conflicting nonverbal language and other non-Information, and its role during Interaction.  We learn that regulating non-Information keeps the conversation from becoming to hot or cold.

We finish the chapter reiterating the importance of having a curiosity mindset and how that brings otherwise unknown Information to the conscious level.

The Melfox Method

  1. Environment
  2. Information
  3. Egoity
  4. Interaction
  5. Outcome
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